个人感觉这本书男权主义比较强,不过鉴于他只是在抒发男性心理指导女性行为,暂且不过分,毕竟当下社会背景,还是要维护家庭和谐还是有与生俱来的性别角色扮演。
故摘抄大意,疏于整理,只是便于查阅。15个点,充分告诉你女人怎样排除不靠谱男人,还是狠狠心,别骗自己了,该踹就踹吧,省得以后麻烦。
1 Men want the bragging rights- the right to say “i’m number one”(man’s motivation)
Recognizing that he’s On the verge of becoming the man he wants to be
Implement his plan
2 man’s love is diff from woman’s love
·Profess,she is in the man’s plan
A profession is key- you will know if a man is serious about you once he claims you
·Provide
But some men simply do not have the education, resources, and wherewithal to make an adequate amount of hard cash.
It’s a “get-over” term, ladies- one that has a very legitimate premise, but one that has been wrongly and almost universally applied to any woman who has made clear that she experts her man to fulfill his duty as a man.
·Protect
In sum, you have to stoop heaping your own definition of love on men and recognize that men love differently.
3 The three things every man needs- support, loyalty, and the cookie
·your support
Baby, how was your day? Thank you for making it happen for us. This family needs you and wants you and is happy to have you.
The more you make us feel like we’re special, the more we’ll give in return
·your loyalty
·the cookie( sex)
4 “we need to talk” and other words that make men run for cover
Honey,look, nothing is really wrong- I just want to tell somebody something--------fix it
5 first things first, he wants to sleep with you
6 sports fish VS keepers: how men distinguish between the marring types and the playthings
A woman who takes good car of herself. Nice
How you respond- the way you control this exchange- will mean all the difference between whether he considers you a throwback or a keeper
7 mama’s boy
His mother refuses to cut the umbilical cord and let him be a man 脐带的
The only thing you have to do is establish the rules, say them out loud early in the relationship, and make sure he sticks to them
8 why men cheat
The playbook -- how to win the game
9 men respect standards- get some
Start by making the man be really clear up front about what he wants out of his life and his relationship with you.
10 The Five Questions Every Woman Should Ask Before She Gets in Too Deep
1 what are your short-term goals?
2 what are your longe-term goals?
3 what are your views on relationships? A gamut of relationship 全部知识
4 what do you think about me?
5 how do you feel about me?
11 the 90 days rule- getting the respect you deserve
So if the government won’t give a man benefits until he’s been on the job and proven himself. Why, ladies, are you passing out benefits to men before they’ve proven themselves worthy?
How does he react when you tell him you’ve got some problems?
How does your man react under pressure?
How does he react to bad news?
How does he react when he’s told “no”?
12 if he’s meeting the kids after you decide he’s”the one” it’s too late
13 strong, independent, and lonely- women
Appreciating a man, not undermining his confidence, is the best way to get the best out of your guy. And the best way to appreciate him is by being a girl, and especially letting him be a man.
How to be a girl on a date
1 don’t tell him where you’d like to go- tell him the kind of food and atmosphere you enjoy, and then let him figure out a place that he thinks will suit your taste.
2 Don’t tell him you’ll drive—let him get you to where you all need to go.
3 Don’t tell him you want to go dutch—let him pay.
4 Don’t invite him up for a nightcap—kiss him good night and let him figure out what he needs to do to earn the cookie (but not before the ninety-day probation ends).
14 how to get the ring
The setting of the wedding date and standards and enforce them
15 quick answers to the questions you’ve always wanted to ask
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我爱问Steve
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书名: Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man
作者: Steve Harvey
出版社: Amistad
副标题: What Men Really Think About Love, Relationships, Intimacy, and Commitment
出版年: 2009-1-27
页数: 232
定价: USD 23.99
装帧: Hardcover
ISBN: 9780061728976